by Emi O'R

Created on: February 12, 2009   Last Updated: February 14, 2009

Oh! for crying out loud. What century are we in that the question of inter-racial dating rears it's ugly head again? When will we ever grow up and move on? Life is too short and too beautiful to waste time and energy on inter-racial dating - which only leads to "frayed nerves" anyway. Let's enjoy life as free individuals, in - "The land of the free..." Love isn't colour that attracts - it is the meeting of to minds, two hearts, two spirits and two souls. How wonderful.

Inter-racial dating adds flavor to mankind. We grow to learn more about each other's ways, culture and upbringing. This produces a wonderful melting pot. Food with one flavor tastes ok, - but with different spices blending - the taste becomes more exotc - so too with inter-racial dating and marriage.

Love is so beautiful, so special, why taint it with raised eyebrows, sneers, nasty comments, stone throwing, etc. Live life and enjoy it to the fullest is my advice. Times have changed for the better - and for this we are so gratefull and thankful. Those who have a "problem " with inter-racial dating, should best keep their opinions to themselves, instead of causing unnecessry pain and hatred to arise in the souls of man..

My grandmother, an offspring of a slave, whose "slave master", made an honest woman of her in later years when the "tide" changed - was labeled - colored- due to light skin tone. My dad was German Jew, who later joined the Lutherans. My mom black, white and Indianmix, had one child who was blue-eyed, the other four children had different shades of brown, with skin tones differentiating as well. We grew up with so much love and respect. The family moved to South Africa, where apartheid was as rife as it was in America.

I. of this mixed marriage, married an Irishman whose family hailed from County Cork, Ireland whose mother was a German Jew. His family had moved to South Africa to fight the "Boer war". We met , fell in love and married. Needless to say that we were ridiculed, spat on, taunted and called traitors by both white and black. We came back to America and found the situation here even worse than there in the 1990's. The children are all different one blond with light brown eyes, one looks like a Cherokee and one looks Greek. (Heaven knows where that look came from.) Yet we all love each other. Do not care about looks.

It was a shock to find that liberated America looked at the color of our skins. People were bold enough to come right up to me to question who the parents were. They could not fathom a mixed race. In South Africa today, all are known as South Africans - race does not matter anymore. Yet, in this beautiful land of the free, we still fill out forms asking for race. When will we move on? I am so happy that schools ae intergrated and children see the hearts of each other instead of race. The children of today can teach us many lessons of acceptance.

Let's take note:- All women fall pregnant the same way. All carry their children in the womb and give birth to their offspring All love their babies no matter what. All men have the same ingredients for parenthood. We all do the same thing n the bathroom. We all use our mouths to chew or swallow our food. We all do chores of some sort - AND we all live to die someday. LET's just move for change and accept each other at face value for a happier nd peaceful America.

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