by Julie Young

Created on: February 12, 2009

Yes, I believe male attitudes contribute to women choosing a life of lesbianism. Notice the key word: contribute. Although I am a woman who is attracted to men, I am also in the field of psychology, and have the opportunity to study and observe people of all sorts. In general, whether or not a deeply sensitive and emotional side exists or is capable of existing, men come across as demanding and selfish. While women seeking protection and security from a man look up to this, many women feel anything but secure with such a creature.

In my opinion, a handful of women who back away from men will be especially sensitive and will use caution in pursuing a suiting man. Another handful will believe they are strong enough, and in fact prefer, to take care of themselves throughout life. And then there is a handful of women who, for one reason or another, choose a life of lesbianism. Genetic? Maybe. Thought-out? Quite possibly, though more likely to be sub-consciously thought out.

Though not all women who have relationships with other women are the same, the majority of these women carry certain traits. The traits I talk about are different from the stereo-typical traits of being "tom-boy" or "masculine." The traits I speak of include a need for a strong emotional bond, fears that may have been planted emotionally in the past, and a desire to care for and to be cared for by a female who posesses strong emotional and loving qualities. This being said, it is obvious that male attitudes contribute to women choosing a life of lesbianism. If a woman feels a pain inside that drives her away from men and toward women, there is something to be said for that. You may argue and say that not all women who choose this lifestyle feel a pain inside, however, most need strong emotional attachment-something the public eye doesn't understand by viewing two of these women together.

If men's attitudes tend to be physical, insensitive, and controlling (men thoroughly take pride in "power"), why would anyone think these characteristics would not contribute to women choosing a life of lesbianism? No, it is not the attitude of all men, nor is it the choice of all women who have trouble accepting the male's nature. However, one cannot deny that the nature of males contributes to a handful of women choosing a life of lesbianism. Put yourself in the shoes of a woman who is filled with fear and lacks trust, someone who does not trust men and finds no comfort in being with them, someone who feels they are an emotionally decayed question mark when in a traditional relationship, and someone who, when with another woman who shares this understanding, feels fully comfortable and at peace. Now, imagining you, in actuality, were that woman. How do you think you would feel toward men and their attitudes? I would hope you could agree with me in saying that male attitudes absolutely contribute to women choosing lesbianism.

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