by Rosana Modugno

Created on: February 11, 2009

I have spoken to many of my friends on this subject and the one main concern we all seem to have is that men are all about getting to the climax, while women just want to be touched and held. If we touch your hand in bed, it doesn't necessarily mean we want to have sex, it means we just want to be touched. If we want to be spooned, please don't start humping, we only want to be held. Keeping these things in mind makes it obvious to notice that men just want to get to the good part and everything in between can take second place and sometimes unfortunately, that means us.

Since men prefer lists and "to the point" responses, I will make it easier. Guys, here is your list from a woman's perspective. Read it, love it, live it.

1. Those moves you saw on that porno you rented don't work in real life. We don't care how far you can stretch your leg or how fast you move your hips. We want passion, which includes eye contact, kissing, touching, holding, talking, whispering, fondling, caressing, squeezing, more kissing and a little more holding. And if you have a toy you would like to introduce, please let us know in advance. We don't want to be in the middle of foreplay and see you dangling anal beads.

2. Longer on the oral please. We know we can sometimes take a while to orgasm. Be patient with us and we will do the same for you. To orally satisfy a woman doesn't take a whole lot of skill, as long as you find the clitoris and zone in on that for a while, the rest of the vagina will respond. No need to mess with any other parts of it unless you want to. We are all about the clit when you are down there. Be gentle, kiss it (without teeth please) and at least pretend you are enjoying it. There is nothing worse than looking down and seeing a man making a face or forcing his head in the right direction. You can't miss it. It's the hard thing, outside, top and center. When we are done, we will pat you on the head.

3. It's not all about you pleasing us. When you want something, please say it. We don't want to guess what you need and there are women who just don't know what to do with a penis or with a man but willing to try. Talk to us. It's sexy. And don't be intimidated if a woman tells you what to do. Some of us love to give orders and who knows, you might enjoy it.

4. Don't forget the breasts. They need love too. Biting is essential on the nipples but not so hard. And while you are doing this, don't forget you have hands. Idle hands make Jack a very dull boy.

5. We might want

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