by Nikki Stoneroad

Created on: February 11, 2009

I have always been attracted to older men. When you see an older man you see stability. You feel safe. And you also hope that all the kinks have been worked out. But there are also many things to be concerned about.

You have to ask yourself if this man is so wonderful, why is he still single? Maybe he was married and it just didn't work out. Or maybe his mate has passed away. Use caution if he wants to jump into bed on the first date. Also look for obvious signs of financial distress, or an alchohol or drug problem. He's probably not going to be the stability that you are looking for.

Many men move back in with their parents when they divorce. The expenses of divorce are too great to maintain on one's own. But if you find out that he has been living with his mommy all his life, even through multiple relationships, your senses better be tingling because you just stumbled on a momma's boy and she isn't going to approve of anyone. Also, you'll never get any privacy because he'll never move out.

Older men are set in their ways. They have a routine. They always bank at the same bank and always shop at the same stores. Their summer vacations will repeat themselves year after year. They have to be willing to bend a little if they are going to be with you. But beware, because this might not happen, you will end up sacrificing yourself and your interests for this other person which will only create resentment and distaste. So ask yourself if you are willling to adapt to his out of date style.

Kids can be a big issue here. If he's never had kids and you do it's not his fault, but he'll never be able to relate. If he does have children they may be closer to your age and they may have a big problem with this. They don't want someone their age playing the role of their mother. Don't even try to tell them what to do. And if his kids are grown up and moved out, he may not want to change hils life around to fit in your full-time children.

Older men like younger women to have as eye candy. They feel they must still have it if they can get together with someone as young and beautiful as you. He may be sincere in his love for you, but this still holds true.

Dating an older man is not a bad thing. They may be wise and passionate. You may learn a lot from them. They will provide you with an insight to the future and you will hold the key to their past.

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