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to warm myself by the wood stove and contemplate what I would do with myself that day. Then I noticed my socks hanging from a hook over the stove (this is what we did when we came in with wet boots etc...). But this time I didn't remember hanging any socks the night before. Annoyed, I reached up to snatch down the offensive article and noticed that there was something inside. It was a box of Smarties! With a small note that said "From Santa Merry Christmas". I have never had a nicer present or a better Christmas. It sounds silly that something so ridiculous as a box of candy in an old sock could make someone so happy. It was the thought that made it romantic. Not only did he get me a gift (which in and of itself is a miracle), but he also gave me Christmas and a wonderful surprise when I needed it most. To this day I get teary-eyed every time I see a box of Smarties.

3) Spend time together. Ok, this sounds like a no brainer. And I can hear you all saying, "easier said than done". However, this is really important. The more time you spend together the stronger your connection will become. You don't need to go on a romantic date or night out on the town (although if you can I highly suggest it). Set your alarm clock 15 30 minutes earlier so you can cuddle together in the morning before the hectic day begins and life takes over. Make a date with each other and make arrangements to spend time alone. Even if it's pizza in front of the fireplace. You'll remember what brought you together in the first place and all the old feelings of being excited by the prospect of seeing the other person will come rushing back.

4) Be more affectionate. For some of you this might take deliberate effort. That's ok. The more you practice it the easier it will come. Please note gentlemen; this does not mean pinching her ass while she's doing the dishes or groping well you get the idea. It means a touch on the back when you serve dinner. A kiss goodbye. A hug between chores "just because". Say, "I Love You", or call each other by pet names. Smile from across the room or give a meaningful wink. Leave a steamy note ina pocket of lunchbox for your partner to find during the day. Remember that you are a team and your connection is strong. Show it to each other and the world.

5) Try to please each other before you please yourself. This applies to both the bedroom and mundane life. Go out of your way to do something nice for your partner. Get pleasure from making them happy.

6) Be adventurous. This also applies to both areas of your life. Try something new. Go to a spa together, Try a new restaurant, buy some silk sheets or try a new position. Share a fantasy. Even if you don't have the guts or true inclination to act it out, often sharing it with your partner will prove inspiring. Be creative.

7) Use props when necessary. Ok, this is getting down to the nitty gritty. Don't be afraid to get a little help when required. This can mean anything from scented candles and soft music for a little romance, to lotions, chocolate covered strawberries or a can of whipped cream. Men are visual so lingerie and other things they can see tend to work well. Women may find some ideas or inspiration from reading a romance novel or maybe even a little tasteful erotica. Find your palate.

8) Remember it's all out the journey. Don't be in a rush. Enjoy each other. Take your time and have fun. Even if you are pressed for time, there can be something said for delaying gratification and picking up later where you left off. It's a sure-fire way to make sure that you are thinking about each other during the day and counting the seconds until you are together again.

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