by Hildi Hearn

Created on: January 24, 2007   Last Updated: May 01, 2007

How to Improve Your Sex Life:

What do we all want? More money? To lose weight? Health? Happiness? No, of course not don't be silly. We want sex. More of it. Longer lasting. More intimate. More satisfying. Now be honest, you know it's true. Besides, when your sex life is good, all those other things seem to fall into place. Really, you are getting more exercise so you lose weight. When you lose weight, you look and feel better. When you look and feel better you do better at work or in your business. When your business does better and you are making more money, you have more time to spend with your family. Do you see how a good sex life can make your entire life better? Now let me qualify this by saying that this is within the context of a loving, committed, monogamous (is that a dirty word?) relationship. If you are in the singles scene then your sex life (as well as how it affects the rest of your life) is a completely different article.

1) Nag/criticize your partner less. Actually, you should aim for "not at all", but I'm a realist. No one wants to hop into bed with someone who is complaining at him or her or pointing out their faults all the time. Besides. Most of the time the things we nag about aren't that important. For example; cap off the toothpaste (it's not like it's going to go bad), toilet seat up (ok, as a woman who has actually fallen into a toilet this one is annoying, but I have since learned to check first sit later), hogging the remote (there may be other issues there to explore), doing the dishes (they aren't going anywhere), and so on. If we chose to keep our mouths shut (since let's face it even when we do nag, it doesn't change anything), what's the worst that could happen. An extra five minutes of peace?

2) Re-define Romance. What does "romance" mean to you? Moonlit walks on the beach and rose petals spread on the bed? Well, if you like sand in your underwear and stained sheets. Romance isn't about what the specific details are. It is that someone thought enough of you to care about the details at all. When my husband and I were very broke (and I do mean very broke) we had no money for Christmas gifts. He didn't really care as Christmas was never very big on his list and I was always the one putting up the tree and sending out cards. But this Christmas there would be none of it. Needless to say I was a little bummed. The lack of Christmas just seemed to put into focus our dyer straights. Christmas morning I woke up and walked into the kitchen

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