by Violet Buckley

Created on: February 10, 2009   Last Updated: May 19, 2010

Very intriguing question.  Is Parent attitude the key to effective discipline? My answer to this is YES  it is. How the Parents react to the situation affects the attitude of their children. If a parent is calm in dealing with an erring child, it might be easy for the child to admit his mistake and ask sorry  for what he has done but if a parent is yelling and scolding at the top of his voice when a child made mistake, it will make the child defensive and would  tell lies  to  save him from trouble.

A child is submissive to a parent who is calm and understanding. A good parent should explain to the child why he should behave the way he suppose to be and what would happen when he will disobey. Parents should do it in a calm but firm manner for this is a very effective way of disciplining a child. If a  parent is not firm, there's no way for the child to obey. Children are very observant, if they see that they can get their way, they will try to do it but if the parent is firm, it would make a difference in the child's attitude.

Parents should not raise their voice or yell when something goes  wrong. It is not easy to hold our tempers when things are not right but it helps to pacify the matter. A child will become stubborn when he is always shouted or yelled when he made mistakes. But when he is reprimanded in a calm and loving way his heart will softened and he becomes easy to deal with.

A parent's attitude of being consistent in what he says could contribute to an effective discipline. It will be registered in the child's  mind that what mom and dad said  will  really happen. So they are careful not to do things that mom and dad don't want them to do. Inconsistencies make the child confuse and they  eventually do their own way instead. Being consistent in what we say is a good key to effective discipline.

Honesty is another attitude that parent should show to their children. What the children would see and witness from their parents has a great impact in their lives. They will copy the examples that they  see from their parents. When this happened, parents will be having a hard time dealing with their children's honesty when they themselves are not showing good  examples of how to be honest.

With this, i would say, that the attitude of parents is a key to effective discipline. Children can easily follow what they see. Parents should show good examples to their kids then effective discipline is just easy to achieve.

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