by Kayla Griffin

Created on: February 10, 2009   Last Updated: February 21, 2009

I believe the expression used by many parents over the years is "terrible twos." This is the age of tantrums and turmoil. Your toddler wants things his way, the beginning of an independent streak that takes over your sweet little baby and leaves you in the grocery store with a screaming 2 year old.

You start to ask yourself "How did this happen? What did I do wrong?" and most importantly "How can I get my sweet child back?" The answer to this is much easier to write then it is to accomplish. It takes a lot of hard work, time, energy and thought. As parents though, we know our children are worth it and are willing to put in the time.

Disciplining a toddler to many parents is very hard, they show us those pouting quivering lips and we're putty in their hands; we just want to make everything better to see them smile again. This is our biggest mistake, and the most important rule to remember when disciplining our toddler. Your child is smarter then you think, they are capable of understanding rules such as "don't touch that" or "do not climb on the stairs."

In order to discipline our toddlers properly, we must first come to terms with the fact that they are not babies and they are capable of learning rules, and purposely being defiant. It is very important to ensure that when our children do something they are not suppose to do out of spite that we address the actions they have done.

Once we understand these key elements we are then ready to learn strategies on how we should discipline our toddlers. I had a very defiant 2 year old and I understand the meaning of "terrible twos" completely. However having been through this and made it out alive to tell the tale, allows me to share what I have learned.

Set Rules and Consequences Clearly

Make sure your toddler is aware exactly what the rules are and keep in mind that they are young and may forget from time to time. You should repeat the rules to them a few times each day, also encourage them to tell you the rules. This will open up the lines of communication, and make them feel independent and proud to know the answer. You should clearly tell them what will happen when they break the rules. This way when you do need to follow through you can feel comfort in knowing that your child has made the "choice" face the consequences.

Follow Through

This was the hardest part for me, but so important to the overall result which is a well mannered, kind hearted, self disciplined member of society. When you say you will do something you

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