by Linda Sajiw

Created on: February 10, 2009

Yes, falling in love really is that easy. Falling in love with the best
match for you is not as easy. Staying in love with someone takes discipline. That discipline must be for taking care of our own needs while staying in love with ourselves first. Only then can we truly offer another love that is authentic.

The more enamored we are with someone because they are fulfilling our needs the more broken hearted we are when a relationship ends. We will also be jealous of anyone that we perceive as a threat to having the person meeting those needs taken away from us when we are in relationship with someone. What is really threatened is the concept of who we think we are.

If we want to be "in love with" someone long term then we must be doing our own journey of connecting with who we are from the "inside out". The essence of who we are is love. What this means is we must love not only those traits that we perceive as good but also be able to look at and love those hidden shadow traits as they surface.

If we fail to be consistently doing an inner journey of discovery for ourself then we end up just living from fragments of who we are while keeping the uncomfortable stuff hidden. We then limit what we can offer in relationship with a partner.

In truth what we are really doing is landing in love when we are living our lives from the inside out. We are able to anchor or ground within our physical body and world higher aspects of ourselves as individuals with a purpose.

We become more of who we are and have more impact on others with every word we speak and action we take. Those that are in resonance with us will begin to become aware of us without us being physically together. We begin to open up more abilities to communicate our essence of love.

If we are just falling in and out of love based on whether a person is good or bad towards us we are really operating from romance and separation from the objects of our attention. We have a tendency to romance almost everything in our world. We can get caught up in the glitz and glamor of being with someone or even about what it takes to create a business out of something that we love to do. This is why so many people quit because they have an idealized view of what a relationship is about with whatever they are focused on. If we are truly living from love we have a steadfastness that is unstoppable. When we are living from this place in our consciousness what we really are doing is living a path of initiation in service to something

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