by Aster C. Lilly

Created on: February 09, 2009

Online Dating is one of the strangest activities. Literally, it's window-shopping for a date. The biggest problem in Online Dating is the fact that there are thousands of possibilities, and very few people with who you actually would meet. Both men and women face this same difficulty, and should have different strategies to meet that truly special person.

The main issue men have when meeting a date online is that there is a VAST amount of competition. Women are bombarded by the same guy every day, sending them boring messages like "U R SEXY". Don't be that guy. Be person who gets dates. While sometimes this does work, the girls who are really attractive will NOT be wooed by this commonplace message.

During the initial interaction, be playful. Write messages that have cliffhangers, and emotionally connect with some aspect of your interest's personality.

Don't get into technical conversations - focus on the immediate issues. What are you feeling right now? What amuses you? What are the little things you notice in your room?

"Are you one of those cat-ladies? Future crazy cat-ladies of America!"

"You get ten points."

"You're way too sassy for me."

"Your _______ reminds me of this time I was ______. I'll save that story for another time."

"How much money do you spend on your hair?! We're in a recession, you, know."

"I used to have that same table at my mom's house."

In your profile, it is a good idea to post some sort of statement describing your ideal person and what you want from that person. Even if you just want someone for a purely physical experience, be honest. Even if you just want to sit around and play video games, be honest with what you want and make some boundaries.

"I want a woman who is ________, because _________ is important to me. I want to do _________. I do not want __________."

What photos should you post?

When making a profile, men should focus on at least three photos that tell a woman what to expect with a date.

Firstly, men should post a picture of their best smile. Women judge based on a man's status, and will acertain very quickly if a man is sincere and emotionally honest. If you can smile sincerely, you'll be better off than a pouty face. Don't post a hundred toothy-smile pictures, just one or two that demonstrate your personality.

Women should avoid posting up-close facial pictures. It means you're fat and embarassed about your weight. If you're fat, don't worry about it - most men don't mind unless you're unhealthly and obese. Focus on looking healthy.

Secondly,

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