by Philip Kingery

Created on: February 08, 2009   Last Updated: February 16, 2009

How to be a better wife? Do we as men wish that we had a better wife? If so, I imagine that the problem is within us as men more so than with the woman that we chose to be our life partner. How often do we take her for granted, ignore her desires, or treat her like one of the kids when we get home from work? The majority of men bring home the fatter paycheck, does this mean that we are the more important partner in this partnership? I think not. Most of us expect to work all day and come home to everything ready for us to enjoy. Dinner on the table, clothes washed, kids bathed, and of course the house better be spotless. If all of this is in order, then we can sit back and watch Monday Night Football in peace. Wifee better not disturb us then either, except maybe to bring us more beer and pretzels.

If we want a better wife it may be wise to first strive to be the best husband that we can be. It is possible to treat the woman that we chose to spend the remainder of our life with as the special person that we fell in love with. And yes this can be done without infringing on the new world ethics of equality. All people like to know that they are special to someone, especially to the one that we chose as our mate for life. Is there any reason that our special woman must work a job, come home and fix dinner, then take care of all of the 'must' stuff with the kids? Is it possible that she is tired at the end of her workday just as much as we are? If you think about it I am sure that you will agree that she is, and depending on the job, maybe more so than you are. If this is the way things are in your home and you are wondering why your wife is griping at you all of the time, wake up. Why is it that she does not want 'me' to relax when I get home? Why isn't she a better wife? Why doesn't she understand that I worked all day and am tired?

The days of the woman staying home and raising the kids are gone forever guys. If we wish to have a happy home and keep our 'better wife' then we better learn to change with the times and share these responsibilities with our partner, become a better husband. Or, we could try three months of switching things around and see how pleasant a person that we can be. Try working all day and then taking care of the cooking, cleaning, and the kids, and of course waiting on our woman for whatever she wants. Be sure that we do it with a smile, and the quicker the better on the wine and cheese will Desperate Housewives is on the tube. Be certain that you do not mis-understand this article.

The goal is for both people to share the responsibilities that make the relationship, not for the men to roll over and do everything. If this were to happen, the gripe would just be reversed. Man and woman are partners, and partners share the load in a partnership. When one is down the other helps them back up; but together they are stronger and happier. So, we do not have to be on a leash or a chain, but we do need to realize that we can help our wife to be the 'better wife' that many of us seem to desire so much.

It really would not matter who our wife is, if we do not treat them as our partner, it will not be long before we wish that she was a 'better wife'.

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