by eugenie

Created on: February 07, 2009   Last Updated: February 16, 2011

My first boyfriend was the Father of my first born son. I was 15 when I met him and he was 18. When I was pregnant I was at my happiest but I had a horrendous birthing experience.. He was breech and was born vaginally bottom first.. It was 11 years before I had another child because the experience was so bad. I would not change a thing. My son when I saw him was so beautiful and couldn't belive that he was mine. I felt instant overwhelming love for him.

We married when my son was four months old and for some months it was happy but it was a year where i received many beatings and I left when he raised his hand to my son. I would not let any harm come to my son no matter what I had to do. For years it was just me and him and only for my parents we probably both would have ended up in care. I was a very good Mother to my son and I dont believe a married woman who was with her husband could have made my sons life any more complete. He wanted for nothing. He had lovely manners, never swore, and always worked when he finished school. He was a lovely happy child and is a lovely young man today. He joined the army and served his country for five years and went as part of the UN peace keeping force to Eritera in Eastern Africa. It was a sad Christmas for me that year because I missed him so much but I was lucky at that time I had married and I had his Step Father at home and his brother and sisters.

We were very close and always were I suppose because we basically grew up together. He used to think it was very funny when his peers said his sister was waiting at the school gates for him, we had lots of incidences like that and even today people think we are brother and sister. Believe me in Ireland even 30 years ago it was not easy been a single Mother, but I never ever regretted having my son.

When he decided to leave the army and split with his girlfriend of seven years to travel Europe it was me he turned to for advice and I told him no matter what his decision was I would be behind him. Six moths later he came back home and had spilt with his girlfriend who we all loved like a daughter but he was my son and he was not happy. Most of all I wanted for him was to be happy and healthy. It was right decision he has travelled all over Europe and has now moved to Brazil with his new Brazilian wife. They have open a school of their own and they are very successful. I couldn't be more proud of my son. I think he is an amazing person and he is happy and healthy. My only regret is that he lives so far away I wont know my grandchildren as well as the ones living in Ireland.

I know he will make an awesome dad when his children come along and the fact that I was a single Mother had no effect on him at all. He was loved that was all that mattered and he was surely loved by me and my parents.

I have not seen my son for three years although we chat on computer every day but this christmas he came home... how good it was to see him  ... He had some good news for me too.. I  am going to be a grandmother for the first time... My first grandson.. its amazing to see your family tree growing... I know he will be a great Father ... and I couldnt be prouder of my son... It was so good to see him for the 40 days he was here but heartbreaking to let him go back to brazil.. In the perfect world for me he would live here and raise his son here but all i every asked for any of my children is to be happy healthy and living the life they want.. and thats exactly what he is doing

Single Mothers just like married parents can raise amazing sons..

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