by Athena Goodlight

Created on: February 06, 2009   Last Updated: February 08, 2009

Mourning the loss of a relationship is normal, of course. But don't let sorrow get the better of you. If man tells you he isn't interested in pursuing the relationship further, you have to learn to accept it with grace, and move on. There are a lot of things you can do with your life. But, there are things you should not do after a break-up.

1. Don't "Lose It"

Maintaining your dignity, composure, and good manners is very difficult at this these moments, but it's absolutely essential. Do not make an unfavorable impression on him. Let not his memory of you remain as woman in "Fatal Attraction." Politely wish him well and be off.

2. Don't go to your depressed and negative-aura friends.

There are some people who love to see you in the same miserable situation they are in. It won't help you move on, lest you want to wallow in the mud pile of misery.

3. Don't run back to a previous boyfriend.

Never break-up with one man then run back to a previous boyfriend for comfort. What's worse? Having sex with him, too. There is a reason why you broke up with your first ex. Keep that in mind. Have some self-respect.

4. Don't accept too many invitations from couples.

Unless the event gives an opportunity for you to meet single, available men, It will only leave you out of place or you'll end up being the "fifth wheel." Don't make it a regular habit of hanging out with couple friends. When you are with other single people, you won't feel like an outsider looking in.

5. Don't punish yourself.

We have a tendency to seek out various forms of comfort when we're sad. Make sure these are not self-destructive, such as over eating, over sleeping instead of exercising, binge spending, or turning to alcohol and/ or drugs. The after effect will be worse than your break-up sadness. Get rid of the bad food in your house, buy yourself a pair of nice heels or a new set of running shoes and work out clothes and get moving. Instead of lying around, plan your weekend, or your life, for that matter.

6. Don't beg him back.

The relationship didn't work because of major differences in your beliefs, personalities and goals. Don't go back to him just because you're lonely. Even if he takes you back, it does not change his beliefs and principles. He may take you back just because it's convenient, until the next woman comes along.

7. Don't spend too much time with the common friends you had when you were a couple.

It is normal that you developed common friends as a couple. While it is fine to remain cordial with the

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