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The bottom line is that relationship that does not have trust involved in the framework of the connection will eventually trail. The relationship is built on trust and understanding. If you can no longer trust your partner you are not remaining in the connection for the right reasons. Instead, you are continuing the romance based upon a sense of entitlement that your partner should be loyal to you because you have been loyal to that person. While this is understandable it is not realistic. If you do not believe that your significant other respects you enough to be honest with their words and deeds then you do not have a relationship that can stand the test of time.

Sadly what other people say about our relationship often effects are personal view of our partner. This should not be the case because not everyone has pure motivations when offering relationship advice. Therefore the power of suggestion takes over and we start to accuse our partner of wrongdoing based solely on the suggestions and implications that other people have placed into our minds.I know from personal experience that suspicion and accusation that your partner is cheating will lead to the end of the relationship.

In my most recent relationship I did not understand why my partner would stand by me considering that I have physical challenges that would be inconvenient for her to deal with on a daily basis. I would often accuse her of wanting a partner who was in better physical shape. Someone that did not have a disability and was not in need of help to get through each day. No matter how many times she would tell me that this did not affect her love or devotion to me I continue to suspect that she would eventually cheat on me. The difficult thing for me to handle now is the understanding that she never did. Sure, she has moved onto another relationship but she waited until after we had broken off our romance. She told my best friend that one of the reasons that she left, outside of my alcohol induced outburst was because my suspicion of her was too much to handle. Other people did not put these thoughts into my head. Instead they remained from has relationships that I did not resolve within my heart before moving on. It can be difficult but we must try to view each relationship on its own merits and have trust in our partner until we are given reason not to the have that trust.

Many nights I would lay awake and come up with reasons that her cheating on me would be better for her. Therein lies

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