by Whalehead King

Created on: February 05, 2009

I am no Casanova or Romeo or Lothario. I am, however, a man who loves women, all of them, every shape and size and dispositions. I don't trawl meat markets looking for female company but I like to make female friends. Without women, the world would be a sterile place. This article has nothing to do with reproduction but it has everything to do with sex, especially the fairer of the two. Mutual attraction needn't conclude in the boudoir. It can just as easily be satisfied by strangers chatting on a train.

I don't like to be thought of as a hound, so I do not ogle women. I look at their faces and if they notice, I turn away unless I think they don't mind my attention. Then I risk a second glance. After that moment, it is up to the woman to make the next move. Look back. I won't bite. I only want to enjoy your company. Be not afraid. Spending time in a woman's company is the most pleasant way a man can pass a few moments or a lifetime. If you like what you see, and I try to make myself presentable, say hello. I am not a stalker or a serial killer or a rapist. I am just a schlub who put on a tie and socks that match. I can carry on conversations that cover all sorts of topics. I don't expect anything but sharing smiles and chitchat. These are the things that make life pass easily for both women and men.

I know women are defensive by nature. I would be too if I thought every man I met were a wolf trying to bed me. There are plenty of those bguys but I don't think that paradigm is entirely accurate. I love women because they are women. They may be my opposite, but their opposite point of view is what makes them special to me. I already see the world through a man's eyes. I am grateful for the chance to see things from a woman's eyes. I suppose I should be more assertive if a woman looks at me twice but I don't want to be presumptuous and I don't want to intrude. This isn't really as much about the first move but the second. Who should risk making contact?

I put the onus on the woman. She is the one who will decide in the end if the freindship is worth continuing. I respect her decision. I am obviously lacking a machismo gene but if the woman isn't happy with my company why would I pursue her? What would be the point? I welcome the chance to prove my worth as a boon companion, but without the invitation I assume the woman is self-sufficient and already satisfied with what she has. There is no place for me. In the getting-to-know you phase, the most important phase of all, I will be happy to assert my independent streak and supposed wisdom, but only if invited. I will listen too. It is the 21st century and women can do well enough without men in many aspects. I offer added value to life but if it isn't wanted it is just so much tin. If a woman wants to talk with me, she'll get as good as I can give but I won't know if my input is welcome unless she tells me.

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