by Christina Hayward

Created on: February 04, 2009   Last Updated: February 21, 2009

I was reading the Los Angeles Times today (it happened to be in the break room at work and I had nothing to read, otherwise I would have avoided it) and in it was an article about a new documentary that will be airing on cable TV called "Love and Cheating." This documentary follows 8 couples and explores the world of polygamy. The article was obviously in favor of polygamy, calling monogamy an "archaic" way of living.

I happen to be married but if I were not married I would have the same view I do now. I believe that humans are serial monogamists. I do not believe it is healthy (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, or physically) to be a polygamist. One of the things wrong with this society is that it teaches people that if something is wrong with their lives, all they have to do is get rid of what is wrong, find something new and their life will be alright again. This society does not teach people that if something is wrong in your life you must work hard to correct it. This is a quick-fix, pleasure-indulging, lazy, trend-following society.

A few years ago the trend in sex was bi-sexuality. When I was 13 years old I came to understand that I was bi-sexual. When I was 21 I found out that it was trendy to be bi and that most single men were looking for bi-sexual girlfriends. Single women called themselves "bi-curious" (a title which still disgusts me, but that is a whole other essay) and all over TV and movie screens you had actresses trying out girl-on-girl kisses. This is the same period in time when Ellen came "out of the closet" and sent her career right down the toilet. Apparently it was ok to dabble in lesbianism but to outright dismiss men as sexual partners was unforgivable.

Now that bi-sexuality has become boring and blase there has to be a new trend to keep sex exciting. This trend has come in the form of polygamy. Not only is it now acceptable for single men and women to have sex with and carry on relationships with several different partners at the same time but it has now seeped over into the lives of married couples. People who have been married for 5, 10, or even 15 years are bored with having sex with the same person. Instead of spicing up their sex lives by taking the responsibility of their marriage into their own hands, they simply decide it would be much more exciting to have sex with other people.

Having sex with someone other than your spouse totally negates the need for marriage. Why get married when you are not going to honor the one basic

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