by Carol Shaw-Sutton

Created on: February 04, 2009

Wow, I am so totally not old-fashioned. First of all, I am a strong supporter of womens' rights, secondly, I'm the product of a completely new generation, and last but not least, I don't follow any certain religious code, or even a particular strict moral code regarding sexual mores per se, generally speaking, so I think I can still, despite the seeming odds, give you a few good reasons why sex before marriage should be avoided, or at least not frequented in that much.

First off, I will give you my number one reason why. Reality is always so much more disappointing than fantasy. Take it or leave it, consider my idea kooky if you will, but I am of the strong opinion that sometimes just fantasising about certain things is much better than partaking in a real experience. It keeps people "safe" for the most part.

Secondly, women seem to bear the brunt of most of the damage assessed from sexual relationships. Yes, I said I was not old-fashioned, but I can't deny that when it comes to who gets dumped first after partaking of a sexual encounter, well, it's the woman no doubt. It's usually always the woman. Have you heard of borderline personality disorder? Ah yes, it's becoming quite the catchphrase. You know, there just HAS to be a reason why there are so many psychologically damaged women out there, and I think it's because they are partaking of sex before marriage. Scoff all you want. Laugh. It's the truth.

Also, there is still a risk of women becoming pregnant by having sex before marriage, and this just leads to so many more troubles. Even women who use birth control can't be guaranteed 100% that they can't get pregnant. And you know what usually happens in this situation - man leaves, either pays or cannot pay child support, welfare ensues, woman and her child (or children) are deprived of a better life in general.

So no, if you can't wait, then go ahead, but my opinion is that it's safest for women NOT to. And it's also good for men not to because it protects them from paternity suits and the risk of having to pay child support for the rest of their lives. In this regard, we should also seriously consider the rights of men too, because if women are paying emotionally then the men are being drawn into the net by having to pay for the rest of their lives financially. And this just isn't fair for either side.

In the end, it just isn't worth it. Besides, isn't a wedding supposed to be something holy and sacred? Hey, I'm hardly the religious type, but even I think that marriage is something NOT to be taken lightly.

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