by KissyO

Created on: February 04, 2009

Where is the category for "the more aggressive side"? What's this crap about whether it should be the man or the woman who takes the first initiative. Personalities are what will dictate who takes control of a dating situtation. The more aggressive person will more than likely be the one to take on the challenge.

I was born and raised during the latter part of the baby boomers' age. It might have fell in the decade of free love and open relationships, but it was still a given, (from my parent's point of view) that a man should take charge in all situations. My mother and father were both very submissive in their own ways. At times both extreme aggressors, especially during heated marital battles. However they both were raised to believe the man should take any initiatives if an initiative was to be taken.

I, of course, was determined to be different from the word get, go. Raised by my father after my parent's separation, I tend to have very masculine qualities. Maybe that's why I was the one to ask both my husbands to marry me. In the back of my mind a little voice is saying, "Couldn't you find a guy with balls enough to marry you?" The answer is, I'm not particularly attracted to aggressive men. I gravitate to men who are strong, silent types with a thought in their brain other than sex. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE SEX....when it's done right. I'm digging myself a hole here. How about I stick to the subject at hand.

Men are attracted to women who know what they want. Women who are clear about their thoughts and stay true to nature in their actions. Those type of women don't play mind games such as, "He should be the one to ask or take the initiative". If the woman sits back and waits, she more than likely is going to have to play the age old game of being coy, demure, and yet on the offensive with a very strong air of come hither. She's gotta make sure her package is bundled to be unwrapped and displayed to its best advantage.

What about us chicks who are fat and ugly? Let me rephase that....big and beautiful. I'm a people watcher and love to look for something about everybody that attracts me in both men and women. Their is no such thing as ugly. Ugly is a word used by commercialism to promote products which will make you "beautiful". Or social clicks, who want to make their group exclusive. Cause you can't have exclusive if everybody were allowed to belong, right? We're all unique. At least we start out that way until we're molded by others to believe we need

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