by Carla Baron

Created on: February 04, 2009

Should people have sex before marriage? I believe they should. It's a personal choice of course and it's okay no matter what you choose to do, For me personally however,I think it's important that you do. Now I don't mean that you should sleep with every Tom, Dick and Harry. There is a difference.

I think it's important that when you meet someone that you have strong feelings for you experience what it's like to be with that person. I think it's important to know if you are compatible. People have sexual appetites and preferences and it can be a problem if you are with someone who makes you uncomfortable.

If you don't sleep with someone before you marry them, how will you know where they stand or how they think of sex? If you don't experience sex prior to getting married you won't know what good sex is. You want to know what you like or what you don't like. If you decide to marry someone and don't know what that person may be into you could be putting yourself in a situation that could cause you much stress. Needless to say if the other person is kinky or wants to do something odd or out of the norm, what is going to happen? Chances are you will wind up divorced.

I have heard some horror stories and they came from people who waited until they got married to have sex. Their partners where into some things that were out of the norm. For some it took some time before the realized for others not much time at all. I know someone who got divorced because their husband wanted to dress in womans clothing, and wear their under garments and it freaked her out. At first it started as a joke but it got more and more serious and then just impossible.

I know someone else who's husband wanted her to explore and sleep with others. He wanted to swap partners. It can go both ways, a woman may want the same thing. I don't mean to be putting this all on men but I hear from women so I hear their stories and their reason for leaving.

Look sex is not a sin. If you believe it is you will have problems. You most likely won't be able to enjoy or let go. Everyone wants to marry their true love and make love with that person for the first time. It's a beautiful thought and wonderful thing. It can work and it can be perfect but there's a good chance that it may not work. You may stay married and be frustrated. If the sex is not right or good between you, there's a good chance that one of you will stray and have an extra marital affair. Alot of this depends on your values of course, but remember

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