by Jason Sorrell

Created on: February 03, 2009   Last Updated: September 10, 2010

Take it from a real womanizer...the nice guy never gets the girls. He just gets what he deserves.

First of all, allow me to clear up the misconception of the "Nice Guy" myth. There is no such thing. The "Nice Guy" is right there with the unicorn, Bigfoot, and pixies...he is a fairytale creature meant to provide a moral example for children; or in this case childish adults. The "Nice Guy" in myth is a man who sees a woman as the ultimate object of his affection, who's purity he would never dare question or tarnish with his own, lowly, carnal urges. The "Nice Guy" lives for the whim of his lady-love and only requires the occassional acknowledgement of his devotion, faithfulness, and abject adoration.

There in lies the problem with the "Nice Guy". On the one hand, the man who plays the "Nice Guy" ruse is a liar. He is lying to the woman he is pursuing because he truly wants what any of us want; the wanton, sweaty, sticky, carnal passions of the flesh. Love, a relationship, faithfulness, trust, friendship...these are all great and admirable pursuits, but the only enhance the true goal of human companionship between the sexes. At some point, we are all base animals. Women most certainly are aware of this, and are aware that any man who suggests otherwise is probably spitting on the idea of her as a person of intellect worthy of respect. After all, it is her physycal attributes, even in the fairytales, that make her worth the "Nice Guy's" attentions in the first place.

On the other hand, if we are dealing with a true creature of myth, an actual "Nice Guy", then we are dealing with a deluded fool who refuses to see a woman in the manner she most truly wishes to be seen...as an equal. Being held to a higher standard, being placed on a pedestal, is often WORSE than being disrespected and ignored! This "Nice Guy" denies her humanity, denies her fleshy urges, and for all intents and purposes denies her the right to decide for herself who she is and how she will express herself! The "Nice Guy's" adoring image of his intended is a prison, a role she must conform to if she is to continue to bask in the benefits of the "Nice Guy's" adoration.

And if she does play this dangerous game, woe be upon the woman who fails! "Nice Guys", unable to cope with the reality of social interaction between men and women, have formed and embraced these delusions for a reason! It is these self-same "Nice Guys" than more often than not make the most obsessive and caustic stalkers!

It may be fun for a while, having the fawning attentions of another without any effort on your part. But, soon, you must find yourself wondering; "what is this guy fawning over?" Is he really in love with you, or his own personal image of what you could be? When you want to be you, will the "Nice Guy" be able to stand it?

That is why so many women end up with men like me. We get that they are women; that there is a certain level of treatment that society has told them that they should expect and enjoy. At the end of the day, however, women enjoy being treated like people...indeed like equals; just as lustful, physical, and wonderfully well-rounded in character as any man. "Nice Guys" never get the girl because to them, a girl is one dimensional. Us bad boys are more fun, and more realistic.

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