by Ms. Glenda Bell

Created on: February 02, 2009   Last Updated: February 19, 2009

In the state of Texas, the laws on grandparents rights, is not clearly defined. The law states, the custodial parent has the right to make the choice of what is in the best interest of the child. Though, to most this would seem like the correct approach.it is not. Unfortunately, it is one loop hole that has caused much heartache, to grandparents.

The definition of afford. in this instance is, to make available, give forth, or provide naturally. One would assume, unless of course that the grandparent is unfit, that a child would never keep his/her children away from their grandparents. Should by chance the child, become upset with his parents, he can choose to withhold visitation,at any given time. This can include, though not limited to, visiting the child at school functions, etc. The custodial parent can inform the school, that the grandparent, is not allowed to be at the school, under any circumstance. The only way to remedy this, is for the grandparent to go to court and get a court order stating they have the right to attend, said school functions. But, with the law so clearly undefined, it becomes almost impossible. As in Texas, a grandparent must prove that it is causing emotional harm to the child. It is hard to get an attorney to take the case, and if by chance you do, the expense is exorbitant.

With the divorce rate rapidly escalating, many grandparents, are forced to take legal custody of their grandchildren. The parents are so involved in the outside world, that they tend to neglect their children. This causes hard feelings on the part of the natural parent. They will search for any loop hole to keep the grandparents away. Many have used 14 amendment right to privacy, claiming that visitation infringes on their right to privacy.

As stated earlier, grandparents rights, in the state of Texas, are very vague and limited. There are strict guidelines on what a Grandparent can do to remedy the situation. The best way to have a relationship with your grandchildren, is to have a good relationship with you children. But, if this is not possible, "don't give up", do what ever you can to let your grandchildren know you love and miss them. You don't want them to think you have forgotten them." When you do have the ability to see them, use the time wisely. Build lasting memories, whether it's helping them with their homework, or giving them a shoulder to cry on. Grandkids need mentors too.

Visits with grandparents are an important part of a child's experiences. A grandparents bond is different from any other relationship. It should be a loving and nurturing relationship. It is easy to lose contact with the grandchildren when the children are a product of a broken home, as we tend to lose touch with the ex-daughter-in-law or son-in-law. Keep those lines of communication open. It is always in the best interest of any child, to be loved and cared for by many.

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