by Samantha Gardner

Created on: February 02, 2009

Do you feel like your parents try to dominate every aspect of your life? The people you date or even how many body modifications you have? How about the over bearing dad who wants his son to excel in football because once upon a time he failed at his dream? Controlling parents will be here until the earth disintegrates. Most parents try to protect their pride and joy from being hurt or exposed to the outside world. Controlling parents usually don't understand that their children need to make mistakes in order to learn from them.

When parents knit pick and control everything that leaves scars mentally in the son or daughters brain. At this point especially in teenage years they will want to rebel and get a taste of life. Controlling parents wont fully comprehend what you are trying to tell them. If you are begging and pleading it will go in one ear and out the other. As a son or daughter you need to respect your parents to some degree. After all they gave you life and roof over your head. The thing is parents aren't their children and don't understand what they need as an individual.

Controlling parents think that they are helping their children grow as strong healthy people. When in reality it is only causing a rift between parent and child. There is no full proof plan on how to deal with controlling parents. Each parent has their own way of raising or brainwashing their creation. As a son or daughter you need to stand your ground. Do not let your parents determine whether you are a rock star or brain surgeon.

Are you an adult who left the nest and are still being controlled because your parents haven't learned anything? You as an adult have to be assertive and tell your parents this is who you are. Drill it into their heads that you are capable of living your life without them telling you how to do it. We cannot change who our parents are but we can learn to live with how they act and treat us. Parents may feel like they are losing their little Timmy or Nancy because they are all grown up. We don't need mommy and daddy to tie our shoes anymore or make supper.

Perhaps all parents need is a new hobby or interest to get their mind off being so controlling. This might give them fulfillment or maybe its just enough to keep them busy for a while. You will always be their kid so you need to reassure them of that. Tell your parents that you want advice and love from them so they wont feel like you are completely gone. Controlling parents can make you feel like you are the scum of the earth. They can make you feel so suffocated you might as well be in a coffin.

So you need to take a deep breathe and be happy you have made it this far. Do not let your parents make you feel like you need to look or behave a certain way. Stay true to yourself and keep striving to prove yourself. Your parents failures and aspirations do not make you who you are. Show them your talents and your goals in life.

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