by Glory Lennon

Created on: February 02, 2009

Whether you are 15 or 50 years old the differences between love and lust remain the same. Just because it may be the first love, a young love, doesn't mean the elements of it are dissimilar whatever the age of the persons involved.

The first love of course will be more intense if only because it is the first time you feel this wonderfully frightening feeling towards someone outside your immediate kinship. But how can you tell if it is in fact young love or simply lust?

The idea of love at first sight is unerringly romantic but when you are so young and inexperienced it is unlikely to be such. This is merely attraction at first sight and this too happens at all ages not just to the young. Seeing that perfect person across the room you may instantly assume that perfection will be all the way through. You most likely will be quite disappointed once you get close enough to talk to that person.

Only with in-depth conversations can you know a person or at least some things about him/her. You may find out about their likes and dislikes and what sets him/her apart from every other person out there. In essence, you will discover what type of person he/she is and if that type meshes well with your personality. This takes time, most times a great deal of time. You need to see a person in many situations before you truly know their character and at times they may still be able to hide their true selves from you.

Love is patient and wise while lust is impetuous, rushed and almost frantic. If your intended makes you feel alive, makes you want to be with him/her all the time, makes you think of nothing else it may be love indeed. If you are thinking mainly of ripping clothes off, that, however is lust calling.

If the one you love seems entirely consumed with the idea of taking things to the outer reaches, meaning sex, they may only be pretending to be in love to get to the physical aspect. This is definitely lust. And going physical does not bring on feelings of love lest you think otherwise. The exact opposite actually occurs mainly because respect is lost. Some don't think much of respect but love does, a great deal. Without it you don't have love at all.

Love is wise and therefore should be treated with respect. If the one you love respects love and respects you and you in turn respect it then real love is there. Lust is stupid and therefore does stupid things. When in doubt, step back and think. Thinking is free and should be done often. Thinking can eliminate a load of pain.

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