by Bai Maleiha

Created on: January 31, 2009

Companionship. To love and being loved back in return. Diversion. Friendship. All of these words do exist in online dating. Only want thing is absent: REALITY.

It is not a secret that online dating is a virtual world of two people who met on the net and still pretend that they know each other well despite the fact that they have no knowledge whatsoever about each other's real character. It is not a secret that not all data provided online is true. Online masking is very imminent.

Online is not the real world. Those who use it to their advantage, especially young people who seek adventure in all forms of online relationship will reveal only their attractive traits and the rest are hidden from constructive criticism.

This is easy for the yahoo messenger minus the webcam can conceal angry faces while chatting. Even if one is screaming at the top of his voice angrily, he could still mask his emotions by just sending a smile emoticon. The yahoo messenger is just a means of writing what the chatter wants to convey. He is always free to edit the information that he provides.

In other words, masking is the other name for online dating.

I started using the yahoo messenger in 2007 and I did join social sites to meet new friends and learn from their respective cultures. However, purposes do vary and this created pressure on my part when some of those who contacted me wanted an online relationship hence most of those I received from my yahoo messenger were offline messages.

Invisible as I always opt to be online, I got questions on why I refrain from chatting. Do I need to say that I do not believe in chatting as the truthful mode of communication? However, I always replied to them politely stressing that I do not cross the boundary of my standards when it comes to online friendship. Those who are gentle and well-mannered responded positively. Those who could not take no for an answer kept stalking me. That was a year ago and from them on I became inactive in social sites except in facebook where social and political causes are always discussed and not on the triviliaties of human emotions.

Out of my personal concern, I imposed it upon myself to write on this title to share my points for they can be of help to those who are undergoing the same stress as I had in the past.

BE SMART ONLINE

Never have a second thought in checking the background of the person who pretends he is someone of this and that without much evidence. Not unless you are assured of the authenticity of the person

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