by Lizzie Elzingre

Created on: January 30, 2009   Last Updated: February 02, 2009

When is a teen ready for sex?

According to facts, teen sex happens because of peer pressure, sexually oriented TV programs, and movies including advertisements. In fact, 15% of young adult females and 31% of young adult males have engaged in premarital sex. As a result, children, who are struggling with so many issues in life, will probably select such values if bombarded with sexual stimuli.

Candice asks:

I am 13 and I know that I am very ready to have sex. All my friends are surprised because half of them have experienced sex. It is not as if I am seeing anyone so there is no pressure. I am just so ready and I want the first time over and done with. Is this a big deal?

Human beings are "social animals". Societies shape their habits, desires, hopes, fears, and beliefs. This is also true of their sexual attitudes and behaviors. Do you realize why the Bible warns humans to separate self from fleshly temptations?

Is it because the world, implicitly, separates sexual intercourse from marriage? Is it because human flesh naturally magnets to these sins and finds them easier to follow rather than God's spiritual standards?

One of the biggest findings with teens having intercourse is that the younger the person the more unrealistic the ideas are about sexual intercourse. Young people tend to dream and talk about their first coitus long before it actually occurs. Eventually, their hopes, fantasies including fears can turn the real experience into something wonderful, terrible, or mediocre.

Why do teens want to have sex? Is it to add new dimensions to a mutually caring and respectful relationship?

For instance, a woman knows that she is ready for sex with her husband, simultaneously, she is aware that sex with a male friend is impossible. This is because a sexual relationship without emotional commitment can cause harm. In contrast, sex can be an emotionally powerful experience for partners sharing the same commitment, feelings, and values.

There are other reasons why teens are not ready for sex, though they may feel they are. Feelings from unsatisfying sex, rejection, or abuse are possible repercussions teens will have to deal with. Although some teens think that they are exception to the rule and that sex does not demand a ton of emotional weigh, still, sex for the sake of experience and curiosity is juvenile.

Campaigns re "safe sex" occupy every nook and cranny and hardly a legroom on abstinence because the world thinks that waiting for the pleasures of marital sex is taboo,

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