by Mopes

Created on: January 28, 2009   Last Updated: January 30, 2009

It is obvious that the first time you leave your child alone with a babysitter you are going to be anxious, but what most parents fail to consider is how the first night away from their parents will affect their children. The first time you leave your child with a caregiver will be scary for you, but your child will probably be more worried than you.

You should ensure that you will be completely comfortable with the person you choose to care for your child. If you are not completely satisfied, find somebody else to be your babysitter. When making this choice, you have to keep in mind that you don't need to worry. You are going out to have a good time, not to parent from afar.

After having made this choice, it is important to have the new babysitter spend some time with the child under your supervision. This is primarily for the child to grow accustomed to that person's presence in your company. If the child gets to interact with the new sitter and you at the same time, it will be much less of a shock when you are not around. The added bonus, of course, is that you get to see how that person acts around your child. Have them play a game with the child, or just talk to them for a bit over dinner. Keep in mind, your child doesn't necessarily have to like this person, but they do need to be completely comfortable in their presence.

Once you have done this, you want to explain to your child that they will be spending some time under that person's care.

If at all possible, try to get your child excited about the night out. Make a promise, like having food delivered, or a movie rental night. That way the child is more focused on a positive than a negative. If you make the night something your child looks forward to then there is not likely to be any anxiousness or worry on their part.

When it comes time to leave, you once again want to focus on the positive. Assure your child that you will be back soon, and remind them of the promises made. When you are actually heading out the door, don't turn back. Leave immediately, and casually. If you make the goodbye a huge ordeal, your child will too. Make it a completely casual event. If you show hesitation your child will sense it, and may get upset.

When you get home make sure you ask the sitter and your child how the night went. If your child had a great time, they may be excited to tell you about the night. If they were a contributor to having a fun time, they may even be excited for next time.

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