by JP Shaw

Created on: January 28, 2009

You used to enjoy that little look he gave you when you walked into the room. He enjoyed the little snort you made whenever you laughed at one of his jokes. Holding hands, kissing, just lying in bed and talking into the wee hours in the morning. The beginning of love is like a piece of chocolate you've never tasted before. You savor it, swirling it around inside your mouth to enjoy the decadence and wonderful sweetness that it brings. Do all good things really have to come to an end?

No they don't. They just changed with time, as we all do. Finding the joy in love and maintaining that closeness you feel when you embark on that journey with another can be difficult, especially when we are all bogged down with daily life. Too many bills, kids to look after, work to do, cleaning, grocery shopping. Heck my husband and I are lucky if we have five minutes to spend together in solitude, and many couples spend time remembering how things used to be rather than changing how to make things how they want them to be.

So here are some tips.

1.) Leave each other little notes.

Many couples work opposite shifts and kiss one another goodbye in the morning (or night) before heading off to start their day. Leaving a little "I love you" scribbled on paper inside their lunch or briefcase or jacket pocket can convey a million emotions without too much energy.

2.) Date Night.

Okay yeah impossible right? Wrong. Date night doesn't even mean you have to go out. Hubby and I cannot only not afford a babysitter but we have a 2 year old with disabilities. So going out is kind of out of the question for us. We still have date night. Cook your kids an early supper. Then send them up the stairs to watch a movie or play a game. Bring along an egg timer you will need it. Set it for a half hour to an hour depending on the age of your child. Tell the kids they are not to come down (unless bleeding to death because their brother stabbed them with a transformer) and you and your spouse can enjoy quiet time together to talk, relax, share a glass of wine, or eat your own special dinner made for just the two of you.

3.) Nothing says "I love you" like a good old fashioned high school slow dance.

One of my favourite things my hubby does is when the kids are in bed; he turns on the stereo (softly) grabs my hand and dances with me in the living room. It's cost effective and highly romantic. It works for men who don't like to dance also because there is no one watching them step on your foot.

4.) A 10 minute day

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