by Petro Maritz

Created on: January 28, 2009

Simple questions deserve simple answers. The answer to the question of what you deserve in a relationship is simply: Everything.

You deserve everything you've dreamed of. You deserve all the love and respect in the world. You deserve it and you should demand it. But with demand comes responsibility. What you take you should put back into the relationship.

Relationships are all about everything. There are no half measures in marriages. A relationship can only be completely happy when both parties get everything they deserve, and give to other party everything that they deserve.

A lot easier said than done. Like most simple questions and answers, it's easily misunderstood to be a simple subject too. It isn't. The reality of relationships is that it never is everything it should be. Because imperfect individuals get together to have relationships, these relationships too are imperfect.

Both parties in a marriage should strive to perfection, both individually and in the relationship. The emphasis is on strive'. Although you'll never reach it, you're marriage will surely benefit from trying.

Communication is, like in most aspects of a marriage, the key to reaching your goal. In the ideal relationship both partners should understand their own wants and needs. They should know the wants and needs that could be fulfilled and they should be able to communicate it successfully to their partner.

Although this may sound easy, it is far from. By implication it means that an individual in a relationship first have to know himself very well before he can demand anything from his partner. And few people really know themselves well.

The simple answer You deserve everything in a relationship' is no longer simple. The answer insist you to get to know yourself very well. Figure out what exactly it is that you want in the first place. What implication will it have on your life if you do get everything you want?

The next step in the process is to communicate your needs to your partner. Put it in a specific and unambiguous way. Ask firmly yet non-demanding. Always communicate with love.

The most difficult step in the process of getting everything is to give everything. Serve your partner in every way. Love him and show all the respect that he deserves. Put all the effort you can into your relationship.

You do deserve everything you've ever dreamt of in your relationship. But so does your partner. A truly happy relationship can be established only if both parties know and respect this. Work together to accomplish your goals together.

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