by Susan Nichols

Created on: January 27, 2009

All relationships are built on trust. Without trust you have nothing. Cheating is obviously a violation of trust, and probably the biggest one. You can never go back and change what you've done, and if a person truly cares about the relationship enough, there is no way that he or she will ever be able to hide the fact that they have violated one of the most sacred and valued parts of their relationship. It may take days or it may take years, but eventually the other person will find out in some way.

On the other hand you have the victim of it. I, being a person who has been cheated on before, know that even trying to make the relationship work after being cheated on, is extremely difficult and almost impossible to do without constantly wondering if the other person is lying to you about everything. You constantly wonder if they truly do have to stay at work late or if they are actually with someone else. You wonder who the phone numbers in their phone lead to, and you wonder if they were truly sorry about hurting you or if it's just something they said to make you feel better without leaving them. Nothing good comes from cheating or any other form of lying in a relationship. Most people that cheat and are given a second chance also end up cheating again. They become sneakier because they figure if they could get away with it the first time they should be able to a second time. They figure that now that they have gotten caught they can be more careful as to how and where they cheat or lie.

Another question that should be asked here is why would someone want to continue a relationship with someone who cheated on them? Again, being someone who was cheated on before, I understand that when you love someone it's hard to let go, however, after stepping back and looking at the situation nd further analyzing it, I have come to realize that if someone is cheating on you there must be some reason for it. Maybe they aren't in love with you anymore or they aren't physically attracted to you. Maybe they are in love with you and they are attracted to you, but they just want to test the waters with other people. And like in my case, it could be tht they do it just to see if the grass really is greener on the other side. Maybe they just want to see if there is someone better out there for them. No mater what the reasons, there is nothing right about it. If someone isn't sure about you to begin with and they feel the need to "Test out" other people, then you deserve better anyone. It wasn't mean to be. So why waste your time trying to make it work?

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