by M. Bustamante-Navarro

Created on: January 26, 2009   Last Updated: January 28, 2009

Ex-lovers should NOT stay friends, it will never work. Trust me when I tell you, I speak from experience. There was a time in my life that I believed ex-lovers should be friends, because they where adults whom where more mature.

I decided to go work at my ex-lover's business, for the pay was good. I was taking care of all the accounting, and he thought I knew the books, so he offered me the job. I took the job thinking we were not in high school anymore, and we could work together as civilized adults. We figured since we had both started our own family apart it would be alright to work together, but boy were we so wrong.

The jealousy began when customers would come into his place of business and ask for me. If I smiled with the customer, gave him a look, or even carried a conversation with the customer my ex would get mad. When the customer would leave he would bring it to my attention. He would tell me I was inappropriate with his customers and that for me to remember they were not my friends to even carry a conversation with them. At times he was out of line with his customers by asking them "Why do you ask for her? She is married. " Some customer would just laugh and respond "Why does it bother you?" Are you married to her?"

Months past and I let all this slip me by, until he began to tell me that he was tired of his wife. He slowly began to slip away from his marriage and his family. He distant himself from them to show me he still cared and loved me. I was not impressed with the outcome, for he was having an emotional affair. He would hint to me on several occasions that he would be leaving his wife soon, and if I wanted I still had a chance with him, as thou I had asked for one.

I insisted we were both married and we chose that path for a reason. I believed the breakup was the best thing that ever happened to both of us. To him it was horrible, and that we should give it another chance. He seemed to not understand, and the longer I stayed under his employment the worse it got. He knew he had lsot me and could not have me back, but he desired to win me back one way or another. He became a very vile man, with a bad attitude. My ex began to beat me with negative words. I was tired and I said "Enough is enough! I can not work for you, or even be your friends this is so disturbing." He tried to emotionally scar me once more, but I closed that door as fast as I had opened it.

I believe ex-lovers should NOT be friends, for they will always use the past to hurt you. Close that chapter in your life and never look back.

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