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I grew up in a home where there are four girls and more are boys. In a family that is big like ours, it is hard to be close to all the members of the family. What happens though is that all of us girls are close with one another while the boys are also close with one another. In my family, the same sex siblings are closer applies. Although we are all close with one another, same sex closeness is different. I and my other two sisters have been real close to one another when we were kids. Except for one sister who came way too late and we had a big age gap which made us not able to communicate well together. So the three of us girls started being very close together since childhood.

I remember when we went to the fields and the boys have different work from us girls. Usually boys do the harder jobs in the fields such as digging the soil while us girls do the planting and pulling of weeds. This made us girls even closer together while the boys also became closer together. The tendency for same sex closeness happens because of the activities that siblings do. Often times girls have common things together and that they could relate to one another. Boys also do the same. that is why same sex siblings have the tendency to become close.

My sisters and I did the same things together. We all loved books and playing school together when we were kids. My eldest sister was the teacher and I and my other sister who is older than me are the students. My eldest sister is a very patient person who taught us a lot of things since we were little children and when we were ready for school we were already taught by our sister to read and write. Although I am close to my brothers too and they often times taught me how to do things and they did things that I didn't know for me, I find it harder to communicate and relate to them. Maybe because they have different sex and they did more things with their my other brothers.

When my youngest sister grew up, I became closer to her. And when my eldest sister married and my other elder sister went to the city to work, it was I and my youngest sister who became very close with one another. I think closeness happens because there are many things that siblings do together and with same sex they can do things in common and could relate better with sibling of the same sex. Sometimes it is better to confide sensitive things to siblings of your sex because they could understand more what you are undergoing.

Other people aren't as close as their siblings and so many people are commenting on the closeness I share with one of my elder sister. She is like my twin and often times people mistake us as twins because we look the same and have the same hobbies, likes and dislikes. We often choose the same things too. Maybe these was the effect of too much closeness.

I think closeness happens to siblings with same sex because the activities, the likes, the hobbies, the dislikes are the same. the person whom you can confide in and do things with would become close to you and this is true with siblings.

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