by Khyrana Oktivia Pambudi

Created on: January 24, 2009   Last Updated: October 02, 2010

When I hear the word forgiveness, I would immediately think of peace. And peace is what we need to turn our house into a home. So yes, forgiveness is very crucial for parent and child relationship, in fact it is crucial for all relationships in general. As for trust, in my opinion it is something that we have to earn, therefore it would required time and efforts. I love my children very dearly, but if they want me to trust them, they would need to prove they can earn it. Being human, in this case little kids, making mistakes are unavoidable. This is where forgiveness comes in. As long as they are willing to admit and regret their mistake and asking for an apology, chances are I'll forgive them. Of course they need to convince me that they really sorry, and in order to do that, I need to to trust them. So basically, forgiveness and trust is like chicken and egg, one can't exist without the other.

What am I saying, that stuff I just wrote only apply for really serious matter. In our day-to-day life, pretty much when my kids bat those eyelashes and look at me with their big brown teary eyes, my heart melts and I forgive them in an instant. Even if I knew they would still doodle on the floor or spill that glass of milk whenever they get the chance. But sometimes, when I'm just not in a good mood, no amount of eye-lash batting could do the trick. I would just scold those little angels till they run out of tears. It really is not something I'm proud about. After I calmed down, I always beat my self up for losing my temper and ask my kids for an apology. Those sweet little innocent kids forgive me every time. That's what children do, out of the goodness of their heart and their pure souls, they could easily forgive us grown ups - their parents. Some say we need to raised our children with unconditional love so they can grow into responsible and happy adults. I would say, we grown ups should learn from our children the real meaning of unconditional love in order to become better parents. Anyway, that's just my opinion.

So just to sus up, forgiveness is very important in general. But in this case, between parent and child, it comes easy out of love. On the other hand, no matter how much we want to trust the people we love, even if they are our little darlings, it won't be so easy. The truth of the matter is, trust has to be earned. Sure, we can give reasonable doubts out of goodwill, but sooner or later we just have to prove our trustworthiness.

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