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For this edition, I have decided to divert slightly from what I've been writing about in the past few editions, and talk about relationships. This is one of my favorite topics, and has developed into a passion for me, so forgive me if I sound excited. Also, I would like to make one disclaimer: most of what I write about in regard to relationships that I claim as my own, is still in the hypothetical stage of development for me. Therefore, your feedback on anything discussed would be appreciated.

Before we begin, I want to give you a couple of definitions. When I talk about relationships, that is all encompassing. You can form a relationship with a dog, a classmate, or some guy you work with. A relationship is merely a connection that is made with someone or something, and confirmed by social cues or strokes given to you by another person or thing in your environment. Sounds simple, right? Yet we spend more time worrying about our relationships with others, and more books have been written on this topic, than any other in the history of mankind. The reason for this is because human relationships mean something more. In a human relationship, most of the time we aim to have the other person uplifted and for them to grow as a person because of something that we do for them. Some theorize that this is the definition of love (Peck, 1978); love is a topic I will delve into sometime in future editions.

Relationships come in many forms. There is some debate among my contemporaries as to whether or not a title given to that relationship makes a difference. My stance is that it should not matter, but it does. The reason I say this, is that I am of the belief that people shouldn't over think things, and spend more time going with the flow. This is especially true when dealing with other people, because sometimes we spend time trying to apply logic to situations that are not based on logic. There are a lot of things that we do within our relationships that do not make logical sense, but they are either on an emotional level, and/or serve to keep the relationship intact. The other side to this is that placing a title upon a relationship, such as friend, acquaintance, contemporary, girlfriend, boyfriend, or lover, serves to provide rules as to how that relationship should go, as well as how that relationship is viewed by other people. The problem that I have with this is, let's say, you break one of your rules of friendship and cross the line into

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