by Bobbylee Galindo

Created on: January 23, 2009

Trust and communication are very healthy to a relationship. My husband and I found this out the hard way. We married at a very young age. We were very immature. He began going to bars and strip clubs every weekend. Although I trusted him to be at these places, I always had my questions. Fighting it exactly what we did on a regular basis. We had children. While he was out having a great time, I was home taking care of babies.

Time after time he would go out. Let me say this, when he was drunk he wasn't exactly a nice person. There was never physical abuse. However, there was mental abuse. I was everything horrible that you could imagine. Years and years kind of treatment went on. Then one day it just all came to a stop. He quit going to the bars and the strip clubs. Out of the blue he was going to be working out of town. He was going to be working there for the next three years. Our relationship was a wreck and it was about to get worse. He was never home so we could work things out. Things got very old. No communication and a ton of fighting. What I am about to tell you doesn't sound right and I know it now. But I was missing something.

I began talking to a man over the internet. Every weekend that my husband was home, I found myself not wanting to talk or even hang out with him. I was getting to the point that every time he would bring up our issues, I just wanted a divorce. In my mind and heart I loved him. But I felt like I needed change. My heart had been broken so many times by this one man that I felt like I really didn't want to work things out. After a few months of this, he began begging and pleading that we work things out. I had it set in my heart to leave and get that divorce. For some reason I could not get the courage up to do it.

One night while I was sleeping my husband went through my emails and found out about the other man. Things hit the fan. He woke me up screaming and yelling. He kept saying this is why you don't want to work things out. Yelling that I had a replacement for him. I was confused because I really didn't think of it that way. But to be honest the man that I was talking to made me feel good about myself. Something that I had not felt for a long time with my husband. To be honest with you and myself I don't know if I would have left my husband. But I knew that something drastic had to happen for my husband and I to see the bad in our relationship.

We ended up splitting up for awhile. It was just a matter of time. Our relationship

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