by Patricia Bunch

Created on: January 22, 2009

Grief, the emotion so deep inside the soul of the human, it cannot be touched by words, but only healed by time. Being human means sooner or larger grief is going to tip-toe up to your door, or knock you in the face, either way, it is on the way or is slowing passing through. There is no way to avoid its grasp, no way to escape its tears, we must determine to live through the grieving process and it to shall come to pass.

Grief has different stages, some say there are more than five, but five is enough to content with and covers the grieving process well, since very often a grieving person passes through any of the five stages more than once.

Denial

One can grief over any number of losses. Death of a loved one, a close family member or friend, or a parent losing a child is one deep grief. Losing a limp in an accident or the loss of ones vision, a divorce; there are so many events in life that people must grieve over before they have the ability to move on with life. When one dies there is no denial that person is gone, but it just doesn't feel real in the heart of the surviving one left to grieve. One cannot believe a mistake hasn't been made and it was someone Else's child who committed suicide or killed in the car accident. Very soon this stage is past through and the next one will start.

Anger

Someone is to blame for the loss. If it is a death it had to be something someone did to cause the death. We can blame God, the doctors, ourselves, even if its a death we become angry at the person who is dead and blame them for not doing differently and living. Anger wells up inside us for our loved one leaving us behind as ridiculous as it sounds, its a normal part of grieving. There is no set period of time one stays in one stage before going into another. It depends of so many factors of the individual grieving how well they progress. It takes longer to get over the loss of something very dear, such as a child or spouse, than it would to grieve the loss of a pet we had only had for a few years; however, the process is still grief

Bargaining

Most everyone will manifest a belief in God when grieving a loss. Bargains will be made with God if he will restore us with what we have lost we will return a favor. I'm so thankful God made us and understands the nature of the humans he created and doesn't hold us to all the bargaining we try to make with him when our heart is bleeding with such tremendous hurt. We have such a wonderful God, such a loving God. Even though he could

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