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Domestic violence is a most often unpredictable and unexpected event. It is necessary to always maintain your personal safety when dealing with an individual who has a history of domestic violence. It is hard to make a prediction about when this person will have another episode, so it is essential to be ready for an attack at all times.Usually a pattern does develop in the domestic violence cycle however the victim is usually so mentally exhausted that they do not take time to properly investigate the pattern.Normally with abusive patterns the perpetrator will attempt to behave in a more rational manner for several weeks after an episode unless the abuse has already escalated to a more regular occurrence.

This behavior is actually an attempt to lull the victim into believing that the behavior that created the abuse has change. Abusers are normally very manipulative people who understand that their behavior is wrong but make irrational justifications for their conduct. These people try to create any sense of security within the victims so that the victim does not become wise to the pattern of abuse.Unfortunately perpetrators do not understand how to properly express their emotions in a constructive manner. This creates suppression of emotional feelings within the perpetrator eventually leads to the onset of another violent outburst. Therefore, it is appropriate and necessary for victims to prepare themselves for another attack and try to encourage the person into any treatment program available when they are in a more lucid and tranquil state of mind.

Many victims are incapable of understanding that the abusive behavior will not change without treatment.They allow their fantasies of a happy relationship to supersede logical thinking in regard to the pattern that has existed in the relationship.Certainly in severely physical types of relationships is necessary for the victim to always have multiple methods of escape. One should find as many exits from the location as possible and have mental images of these escape roots stored in the back of their mind for the next abusive outburst.A safe place to go in an emergency is also a necessity. The more options a victim has, the safer they will be and the less likely they are to suffer permanent injury.It is advisable in severely physically abusive homes to never leave your back physically to a wall in an argument. You must always have a clear path to your exit. If at all possible self-defense classes should be considered

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