by Christina Peavler

Created on: January 20, 2009   Last Updated: October 12, 2009

Another Debate

MOLESTATION: True or False

I am the one accused of molestation. I vote that molestation did occur, but not as a physical act. I believe the molestation was of the mind. Read the story and at the end I will tell you whether or not a physical molestation occurred.

When my daughter was five years old the police came and took her away. I was in shock. Her father and stepmother had ACCUSED me of molesting her. I was never charged with this by police, although they were the people who came and took my daughter out of my arms and handed her to that pathological liar. This was 8 years ago and I still cringe whenever I see a person in police uniform.

A policeman struck up a conversation with me at the post office while we were in the long Christmas mailing line. I immediately started to panic and left without mailing my packages. My wounds remain raw and easily brought to the surface. Writing this article brings me to tears.

My daughter is now fourteen and I have shared custody of her and one of her brothers. I got sole custody of our oldest son because he refused to live with his father when he was fourteen. He is now an adult and still lives with me. He is saving money to move out. He has no contact to very minimal contact with his father.

To clarify, I have 3 children. They all have the same father and I wish to God they did not. We all have emotional scars that we will have to live with for the rest of out lifes because of this monster man.

My children's wounds are buried very deep while mine remain just under the very first layer of my skin. We went to counseling for 2 years. My children would say nothing. The counselor finally said to me that she could not counsel children who would not speak.

She also told me something that keeps my wounds open and raw daily. I must explain to you that my daughter at this point loves and respects me and we have a normal mother/daughter relationship. She is very loving one minute and then will slam her bedroom door and tell me she is going to live with her father when she does not get her way about something. I tell her to get in the car and I will drive her. She NEVER gets in the car.

Anyway, back to what the counselor told me: she told me that I had to accept the fact that my daughter may never actually know the truth. She said when you take a child that young and tell her something over and over again it actually becomes like a memory for them.

I became very numb. I asked the counselor if my daughter had memories

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