by Kyle Rolf

Created on: January 18, 2009

Socializing is a phenomena that can take part nearly anywhere at any time. With the development of the web has come sites such as E-Harmony and Facebook, and as such our society has easily overcome barriers to making friends and building relationships. I will be sharing my personal insight when it comes to making yourself become an approachable person with something to offer in a conversation and perhaps a relationship.

For starters, nobody wants to talk to someone that isn't visually appealing. This can have a broad meaning, but depending on whom you are trying to make yourself open to, you need to dress accordingly. An easy tip for doing this would be doing a little bit of fieldwork: study your group, find out what works and what doesn't. This isn't to say you should try to be someone you aren't, but rather adapt a bit of their tastes into your own. Uniqueness is a big factor into making yourself stand away from the crowd and thus be noticed.

Once you've managed to get a style down, stick with it. I prefer not to read glamour magazines because they are funded through advertisers trying to sell their goods to the reader. Fashions are quick to come and quick to go, so if your not ready to spend hundreds or thousands on the 'whats hot' section, then don't. Be true to yourself, and besides a little goes a long way (aka: don't overdo it.)

You will find all kinds of people out there, some are incredibly outgoing while others barely manage to make it outside and not shudder away from anyone who asks for the time of day. Personally, I have grown from being the "shy-guy" to being an open and optimistic individual. This wasn't an overnight transition though, as it took time for me to realize what I really had to offer in a conversation. This is a crucial part to your social resume. Think about it, if you're a funny person what makes you funny? It helps to write it out (remember those essay charts you thought were so useless in middle school?). Once you've made this step, learn to apply it in conversations. Just be wary, not every conversation will have topics your knowledgeable about and thus may not allow you to apply your traits. In this instance, be a listener! Everyone loves to talk about themselves, and by listening you make yourself out to be a better friend and you might just learn something too.

To build upon that last thought, every aspect of life takes practice to achieve perfection. And while perfection is impossible with socializing, one can certainly attain

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