by Sas Freeman

Created on: January 16, 2009

Toddlers seem to have a mind of their own; and they really do. We may not know what is going on in those little minds, but we can try to work with our toddlers. When it comes to changing clothes, some toddlers love it and others hate it. As parents, we have to find a happy medium for both of us. If we do not find that happy medium, we are faced with one tantrum after another from our toddlers and sometimes from ourselves.

One of the first tips to avoiding a tantrum during a clothes change is to keep your own temper. The more frustrated you get with your toddler, the more frustrated he is going to get. He no longer knows what to do and so he throws a tantrum. He does not understand that if he just does this one thing, you will let him be. It is very important as a parent to stay calm. Children pick up on the way we feel; they are vulnerable to it. Also, the calmer you stay, the more in control you stay of yourself and the situation. If you loose control, the toddler will win the battle and will continue to fight.

Figure out why your toddler is throwing tantrums. Does he not like the outfit you picked out? Is it too tight? Does he like the outfit he has on? Does he not want to go to bed? Does he just dislike changing clothes? There is always a reason for a toddler throws a tantrum. Because you are keeping your calm, you can decipher why your toddler is upset. Sometimes they show signs of what their problems are or they can tell you. Instead of forcing the outfit on the child, put it down and talk to him. Ask him why he is upset. Ask if he wants that outfit. Ask questions and talk with your toddler. This will show him that you care about how he feels and he will be more willing to work with you.

Once you have figured out what the problem may be, start working on a solution. Some solutions will be easier than others. If he does not like the outfit he has on then, let him pick one out. This may take awhile as he picks through his drawer and destroys all the work you have done making it look nice. Unless you are attending something that he has to look nice at and has to wear that specific outfit, who cares if it matches. As soon as he has the outfit He wants, he will put it on and smile because he is satisfied. You will smile to because the fight is over.

If the outfit is too tight, you should find something else. There is no reason to make the child uncomfortable. He will be cranky the entire time he is wearing it and you will suffer as well. Make life easier on

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