by Shayne Connolly

Created on: January 15, 2009

The truth for me is that everything in my romantic past pales into insignificance now I'm with the right person. It took 33 years and many mistakes but looking back it's easy to see everything clearly. It's not hard for me to talk about my past romantic life because it no longer holds any feelings for me, it was a step on the path to where I am now. This is the key, I have no romantic feelings anymore. If you do harbour any feelings about past partners then this could be a dangerous ploy to discuss your romantic past.

Many people have one of those 'What If' relationships in their past which could have gone differently. Talking about this with your partner may be a mistake until you have a very strong foundation of trust. She will see that you still may have some feelings for that person, then you're in trouble. Even if it doesn't really mean anything to you now (at least that's what you tell yourself) the fact there are unresolved issues isn't great. Don't try to lie about it, women can smell a lie a mile away. This is one of those times that you may just choose to leave out the entire truth, you should fill in the details later when you are sure the relationship can handle it.

Sometimes you have to know about your partners past life, if they were married, engaged, had kids these are all important reasons to get a greater understanding of your partners past relationships. It doesn't always mean there needs to be great details about this or that, but your partner needs to be sure that most of the issues have been resolved.

Now guys there is no woman out there that really wants to hear about your previous sex life (if you do find one that is then she may be fun but probably not a keeper) , this is different from your romantic past. Trust me it is. There is no reason to mention your sex life before your current partner, unless you want to break up. There is no way to put that stuff in words that won't make your partner or any normal person jealous, we are all human. No one needs that picture in their head.

So the answer is yes but you need to use your common sense, there are some things your partner doesn't want to know about whether they ask or not (especially if they ask, it's a trick question). They don't want to know who was good in bed, they don't want to know how many people you have slept with and they certainly don't want to know how good any of them looked. So be honest but not suicidal, no relationship needs that much honesty.

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