by Jessica Fayth

Created on: January 15, 2009   Last Updated: August 30, 2010

My husband and I will be celebrating our second anniversary in two months. He actually asked me the other day if he should be planning something special for it. I laughed and said if you have to ask and I have to tell you, then what have you learned?Except, he is right to ask because he has learned that women will act like they don't want anything and then get mad when they don't get it because men are supposed to be psychic and just know what to do. For a marriage to last, you have to learn from each other, give and take as well as compromise and always communicate.

The morning after our wedding, I remember waking up next to my husband and realizing that I will always wake up to him. It was a great feeling, but it was also a reality check. We both were like wait you aren't going home? And then two years later, you start to like it. No, I am just kidding, you like it right away. But, I'm not going to lie. It does take some time to get used to; unless you were living together before you were married. Living with someone is completely different than when you were dating. You find out all of their strange habits and of course you fight about finances, cleaning, etc. These are normal issues in a marriage and when two people live together, they are bound to argue about something. However, always communicate and try to work out some sort of a compromise in order to keep the both of you happy. Yes, both of you have to be happy, not just one of you. If only one of you is happy then neither one of you is happy. You are one; you aren't two anymore. Yes, you are still an individual. However, in your marriage, you are half of one. So if half of you is happy and the other half isn't, that one half is going to make you miserable. Trust me. And so I stress that both of you, both halves, must be happy in order to have a happy and successful marriage.

Never go to bed angry. You have to talk it out and make up. If you put it off, then you are putting off your relationship and that relationship is going to crumble. Communication is key in a marriage. However, when the marriage is lacking the necessary communication skills, the couple begins to grow further and further apart. How can you both live together for a lifetime if you aren't telling each other how you truly feel? You have to open up to your spouse and be honest. Your spouse cannot know what it is on your mind unless you tell them. You can learn how your spouse thinks, wants, etc. but only if your spouse has taught you

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