by Steven Dontigny

Created on: January 15, 2009

I'm sorry but I have read some articles on ten tips for the first date and realized I had to step up. I am writing this as a guy for guys but I am sure both genders will get a lot out of this article.

First things first. You have already gotten past the hardest part. You have asked her out and she said yes! That's the hard part. You have found someone you like! You have found someone who likes you! And you have found the courage to ask her out and she said yes!

So now its time to relax. She is interested in you and so much so she is willing to go on a date. Now its time to step up. So the top ten tips for the first date.

1. Be yourself. In every aspect. Don't change your hairstyle. Wear what you normally would (not at work but if you were going to the bar with the boys what would you wear?). Be Yourself.

2. Be on time! Pretty simple but this is huge! This weighs heavy on a girls mind. Late means that you don't care enough. it means that you had something better to do. So DON'T be late.

3. Bring a gift. Don't spend a fortune, that looks desperate. Find something with meaning, not flowers or chocolate. Something special. Beaded necklaces are trendy right now.

4. Chivalry. Open the car door for her. ( a little trick here, park so you are passing the passenger side of the car as you come from her house. It doesn't look like your running around the car to get there.) Always offer to get her jacket, pull out her chair and hold doors. A really nice touch is always letting her order first, always stand up when she leaves the table (they usually go to the bathroom at some point) and when she returns.

5. Don't have something outrageous planned. This is an introductory meeting. A chance for two people to converse and learn more about each other. So dinner and drinks and great conversation.

6. KISS. No not that kiss. Keep It Simple Stupid. Conversation is going to lead to many revealing questions. So keep it simple. Don't get into details, don't be negative and don't reveal to much. A great tip to control what you reveal, is to pretend your mother is at the table. Not only will you keep the conversation light, you will keep your manners up!

7. Listen. Listen to her and ask her questions about the topics she brings up! Pretend there will be a test after and the conversation will flow all night! A great way to start conversation if there is a nervous tension is to ask her "If you could have dinner with any two people from today or history, who are they and why? (it always works)

8. PAY .. even if she insists.. you pay for dinner, you pay for everything. No matter what .. Pay!

9. If the date has gone well ask her if she wants to go for a walk. This is where you plan ahead. Try to make reservations for dinner somewhere trendy and on the social side.You want ambiance but still be able to converse. Try to pick a place that has a great area to walk afterwards (along the water, city street or near her home,so you can walk her home after dinner).

10. Do NOT push for a kiss. If you drive her home or walk her home, walk her to the door, thank her for a great night and tell her, as you look right in her eyes, that you really enjoyed the evening and would like to do it again! If she says she would too, say great and good night. If she wants to kiss you she will let you know! If she kisses you or not.. pause and say good night. If she invites you in .. say something like.. umm well I don't think so..I have to get up early but lets do this again .. soon really soon!

And Voila ... ten tips that will make the difference...

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