by Kelly Ismail

Created on: January 12, 2009   Last Updated: January 20, 2012

Jealousy is one of those emotions that can lead to a big mess. It brings about feelings of distrust and reeks havoc on your self esteem and ego. In relationships with a spouse or someone that you are committed to, it can destroy the innocence and purity of the love that you feel.

Jealousy takes a doubt and fertilizes into a monster of negativity. It grows by adding more doubts and magnifying the doubts to the point that you change who you are. You start to say things that you don't mean and react in ways that are totally against your personality. The beautiful person that lit up the room when you met them has now become a lying, hurtful person in your eyes. Why? Because jealously perverted the truth. It distorted your visions and invaded the positive points in your life.

Jealousy is an inner battle that has to be fought hard to be won. You don't just wake up one morning and it's there or it's gone. It is like having the incredible hulk living inside you. When it first starts, you might think you are able to control it but as time goes on,it overtakes you and becomes the monster it is meant to be.

Where does the battle start and how do you work to overcome it ? It all starts with you. You have to change how you are viewing yourself and the other person or situation involved. Look at the things about yourself that you like and admire. If you can't find any, then perhaps you are the very person to start to looking at. To fight the hulk inside you and battle out the points of truth, you have to redefine how you see yourself.

Look at the other person you are jealous about. If you are in a relationship with someone and you are jealous of a friend they have, think about the fact that your spouse comes home to you every night. That they married you and that they have a life with you. If you are jealous of what someone has, think about what they don't have. Not everyone has the same things has everybody else. That is what makes us all so different.

No matter what you think, you can always change the bases of the thought by trying to look at it from more than one perspective. Jealousy is one of those emotions that most all of us have. Fighting the monster within can be difficult if we let it get to far out of hand. It can be a constant emotion but you are the one that has to have the power and determination to combat it. Jealousy is an inner battle and it is one that needs to be taken control of before it destroys the very essence of the true you.

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