by Mereshia De Nobrega

Created on: January 11, 2009   Last Updated: February 15, 2009

Not only did I raise four boys. But they help me to grow with them. Yes they taught me how to love, to share and to laugh. They taught me how to learn by asking so many question and the biggest lesson I've learned was to have patience and have faith. I have also learn that hamsters stinks. Little mice can escape and multiply. And if you run out of black-pepper ants can be use as and subsidy for it. Goldfish can be replace without anyone the wiser. With out my boys I would not have being this wise. it would have been very difficult.

What a job, I did raise four boys, They are kind, caring, thoughtful, loving. And all I needed was intelligence, determination and wisdom. But I never knew that. It only came after they were well into there teens. Was it hard bringing them up alone? for sure, there was times but giving them your trust, your love, your time and with encouragement to cope with what ever live gives you. And live gave us a lot.

Starting them off from small with discipline and great manners is a good start. Giving them freedom with the understanding of trust helps a lot. Loving them, recieving love back teaching them love, telling them you love them helps a great deal in their future. They will be able to love, express love, without feeling guilty. After all we are raising our boys into men that will have to make there own decision about there own future towards adult life. To know there own strengths and weaknesses.

There were moments of great joy and fulfillment, but also days of pure hell and frustration. There were days there demands got the better of me. And nights when they went off to sleep it made me happy to look at them and say thank g-d for the peace till the next day. Just like they had to go througth life with figthing with each other and peer pressure, exams, friends, girlfriends but we made it. And if I chose to raise them the way I was raise I would have being the mom standing in line at the prison once a month for a crime they would have said they did not commit.

We had hard times, tough times, good times but we always had Love, Trust, Respect and Communication. And for now I will not be standing inline at the prison gate. The chain of generation have been broken. All I had to do was wanting a new live for my boys. This is what kept us going as a single mom with four boys who is still a hand full. Will the saying still be there boys will be boys when they have boys.

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