by Raymond Alexander Kukkee

Created on: January 10, 2009

How to deal with Low Self-Esteem

It matters not who you are, your age, what your ethnicity may be, or where you live. It does not matter what language you speak, what you do for a living, or what your taste for excitement, fun, or friends may be. Eventually, at some time in your life, even if only for a few hours, you may discover you have negative personal feelings of low self-esteem demonstrated by fear, insecurity, worry, uneasiness, or inadequacy. On these occasions, personal despair may happily melt away after a few hours of reflection. On the other hand, it may last a day, a few weeks, months, or much longer. In extreme cases a state of severe and permanent depression can develop.

In most instances negative feelings and their progression into more serious emotional problems may be attributed to events, personal affairs, or immediate or short-term circumstance. Problems are normally then resolved as circumstances return to normal or a state of acceptance.
It is, however, important to recognize that a serious perception of low self-esteem and low personal worth can substantially contribute to depression and should be addressed and resolved .

Why do people develop low self-esteem? Causes are many. Negative events, self-blame, failure of a relationship, failure of objectives, loss of employment or a myriad of other situations can cause low self-esteem, but resolution may also be as close at hand as honestly asking yourself some pointed and leading questions.

In this discussion, the old adage: " Be dishonest with thyself and mislead a fool " might be appropriate. In problem resolution, truth is best. To be able to identify and accept truth makes dealing with issues simpler. To know why you feel as you do is a great start in creating a customized remedy for low self esteem, using your inherent intelligence, ability, and innate understanding of yourself.
Go ahead. Ask yourself these seven questions. Write down the first answer that pops into your head. Do not alter the answer until you ask the same questions again tomorrow. Compare the answers . You may be surprised at the insight and wisdom you already display.

1. Do you have genuine respect for yourself and who you are as an individual?

2. Are you happy with your personal appearance?

3. Deal with Guilt: Are you ashamed of something that occurred in your lifetime?

4. Are you proud of your career and accomplishments?

5. Do you feel you do not have the social status you deserve in life?

6. Are you happy with your "inner

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