by Memee

Created on: January 09, 2009   Last Updated: October 01, 2010

How ironic that my husband and I just had this conversation over a glass of wine last night. Not that we are comparing ourselves to the rest of the population in any way. The subject came up while talking about friends we did not get to see over the holidays due to time constraints.

We had a mutual friend who lacked the ability to say no to any opportunity to have sex. The only exception depended on if she had shaved her legs that day. She was adamant if she had not shaved her legs she would fore go even the most promising sexual encounter. When the two of us were young and single I always knew when she set her sights on the next "victim" she was akin to a tigress on the prowl. My friend was tall with long legs and beautiful blue eyes that bewitched every man she met. She was not a "bimbo" she was intelligent and dressed to the nines. She could converse on most subjects with facts to back up her words. She held a great job and have a large group of friends but she was a bit over sexed.

When my husband first met her he was in awe of her libido, what man would not want a woman who always wanted sex? I was raised in a family where sex was a confirmation of love; one did not have sex just to have sex! Admittedly I fell prey to a few indiscretions while I was single as did my husband. When you are younger the need outweighs the morals instilled by your parents. Unfortunately raising children, working ungodly hours coupled with the other responsibilities life presents sex gets moved down a notch or two on the scale of survival.

The experts say that couples should have sex several times a week. I truly believe those experts sit in their high rise offices looking out at the world wearing rose colored glasses. When you have small children the opportunity is consistently interrupted by "Mommy I need a drink of water","Daddy there are monsters under my bed" on and on until dragging yourself out of bed every fifteen minutes all but erases any desire to make love.

The planned encounters only lessen as your children become teenagers and know what is supposedly happening behind a closed bedroom door. Admittedly we waited with baited breath when on rare occassions all three kids spent the night with friends. I remember one night when we set our romantic night in motion only to have it rudely interrupted by one of the kids coming back home to get a video to watch. I am sure you all know what affect that has on the desires of the body and mind.

As those children grow up and

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