by Ian Jervis

Created on: January 08, 2009

My Princess!

What most men believe their wives want and what most wives actually want are in a lot of cases totally different.

What most men believe is that if they have lots of money, a large penis and a six pack, then their wives will be happy, when in fact she wants to you to accept and respect her for who she is; the woman behind the make up and hairstyle. For her to be important in your life and to be an equal and worthy partner in your relationship is also very high on the list. To be loved; really loved. In fact adored is probably a better word. For you to know her dress and underwear sizes is so reassuring for her, not that she wants you to know particularly but just the fact that you do know shows to your wife that you are bothered and take an interest in her.

My wife is my Princess, and I treat her that way. After many years of marriage and six children later I love her more than ever and I let her know not only by the words I say to her but by the way I am with her and, maybe more importantly, the way I am when I'm not with her.

Trust and faithfulness are also major keys to happiness in marriage. My wife knows perfectly well, that if I was the only man in a roomful of women that I wouldn't be hitting on anyone and if a woman hit on me that I wouldn't be interested in any way. I have had men tell me that if you don't 'window shop' or hit on women then you're not a real man. To me that's pathetic and deserving of a long lonely life.

She wants to be secure! In her relationship and financially, but I believe that if your partnership is good then whatever the situation is regarding the latter, it can always be improved.

Being the man your wife wants you to be is your responsibility, men! Having a strong character is a good trait but only half of the equation; a velvet touch seals the deal. Its no good strutting around like a rooster, in your relationship, if you can't tend to her emotional needs and turn her eggs once in a while, so to speak. Cook for her; clean once in a while; hold her hand at every opportunity, especially in front of your mates!

Sex is, of course, important and she wants it just as much as you do, but she needs to be romanced first. She needs your touch, your gentleness sometimes, your passion, your love; not just wham! bam! thank you mam! We all like a quickie sometimes but generally this is the case and, as a husband, you need to meet your wife's sexual needs as much as she wants to fulfil yours. So think 'romance' not just 'sex'!

Be as patient with your wife as you are with others. It can be easy to 'snap' at your wife, when things going wrong or astray, whilst at work, you show colleague all the patience in the world. Sometimes the people who are closest to us, get the 'raw end of the deal' and others we hardly know get all the good stuff.

She needs you to talk to sometimes! Switch the TV off sometimes and just talk. Communication is absolutely vital in all area of married and family life. Lisa and myself enjoy talking about what we like, but really if you know your wife, and I mean really know her, you'll never have a problem between the sheets.

I am not saying, men, that lots of money, a large penis and a six pack are bad things, at all :) but when it comes to what your wife really wants from you, there are a million other things way more important.

Huge topic, not enough time, but be her Prince and treat her as your Princess.

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