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at least one), and where their heart is (if they have one). If they care about themselves, or others, and who is their god (ie: power, notoriety, publicity, accolades, money).

How can you do this? Among other things, you may cultivate a relationship with their underlings like their secretary or administrative assistant. Don't ask personal questions that will make them uncomfortable. Tell them who you are, what your goal is (if possible), and ask their opinion on what you're trying to achieve, and what they think is the best method of achieving it. Does it fit into their boss's agenda/vision/goals?

Ask them what they think might be the best way to approach your objective? You'd be surprised how many people are willing to help you if you simply ask! Most people overlook the secretary/administrative assistant, or treat them rudely, or as a non-person. How stupid. You will never get to the boss without going through the secretary. (Oh yeah, if the secretary/administrative assistant hates you, you don't stand a chance). Don't be placating, or phony, people will pick up on that as well. Be sincere, honest, and genuine.

6. Resist the urge to engage your prey one on one until you are ready to negotiate. If it's someone you know already, just say "hi" and keep going! Why? Your prey will be sizing you up as prey, the same way you are sizing them up! The bigger the predator they are, the more dangerous position you put yourself in by trying to be cocky and show your hand too quickly.

7. Also, your prey may be "big game" which provides you with the advantage of being the underdog, meaning they have no expectation of you, or someone like you ever getting the advantage over them. This is considerably in your favor if you have patience. The secret to catching the prey without too much of a struggle on your part (if you watch the nature shows), is TIMING!

8. Consider all the angles

Take the time to project yourself into the situation from their prospective. Play Devil's Advocate. Ask all the questions you think they would ask you if the situation were reversed. Ask the hard questions that you don't have an answer for, and then get one! Consider the positives, and "what's in it for them" there has to always be something in it for the other guy if you want your negotiation tactics to be considered art!

Replay the situation over and over (and over and over) in your head until you think you've covered every conceivable scenario, both good and bad, because there will always be something

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