by Ian Jervis

Created on: January 06, 2009

Happy Women

Having had two failed marriages, you may think it a little strange to be writing a piece on success in relationships, but I totally believe that now at the age of 45, I have finally found out some of the things women truly need to live happily with a man. I had some reservations when I first met Lisa, my wife, in that she was, and still is, 13 years my junior. However, after much discussion she managed to convince me that it was a plus factor rather than a negative. What she was looking for was maturity.

That is not to say (to quell those who are grabbing for a pad and pen to complain about this charlatan)..that this is an absolute, because nothing ever is, but in most cases men are more immature than women. Am I saying this because I am married to a younger woman J or is this a fact? Definitely the latter. A woman wants someone as a partner who will be just thata partner! And more importantly a partner who will lead and be there for her whenevershe needs help. As Aubrey Andelin says in his book; we are to be men of steel and velvet,' and not as dictators in our homes!

I make breakfast for my wife everyday. I can hear you saying "but I don't have the time in a morning!" I would say, well get up a 2 minutes earlier and make hers with yours! Some may say that this is the wrong way round! But is it? I don't think so! She is your Princess! And you should treat her that way!

She wants security! Be a man! That doesn't mean sticking your chest out and strutting around the place, giving out your orders from your' chair and watching the match regardless of what else is on TV cos you need to relax! If you want to be a man, open a few doors for her, even the car door! Help her on with her coat, cook a meal now and again, take her by the hand at every opportunity especially in front of your mates! Let her know her worth and that she is priceless! You may say that this is very old fashioned and that we are in 2008! Maybe but look at the divorce rate! Look at the broken families around the globe. Maybe its time to get a little old fashioned, don't you think?

You will find that if you treat her like that special Princess' in your life then you will be her knight in shining armour,' to coin a phrase, and we all need rescuing sometimes, don't we? If you be the man she needs you to be then she will be the woman you want her to be! It has to be that way round, not the other! It takes work: If you want a fire to give you heat you have to work at it! You don't say, " Fire, give me heat, then I'll put the coal on!

She needs romance just as you do, but find out what she wants. Don't assume it's the same as you want. Go out of your way to be romantic. Yes, flowers; Yes, gifts (wrapped, not shoved in a bag!) but more importantly.You. She loves you! Else she wouldn't have swapped her name for yours and she certainly wouldn't put up with some of your habits, would she? Look her in the eyes and tell her! Kiss her! Court her! Touch her! But be real! Be the you she fell for when she agreed to live with you.

Win her charms daily! My goal everyday is to do as much as I possibly can for Lisa, and in return she gives me what I need and more.

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