by April Trice

Created on: January 05, 2009

I have often compared raising a spirited toddler to chasing a salmon upstream while wearing lead boots and eight layers of Christmas sweaters. It's tough work. We hear these toddlers called everything from "High Strung" to "Problematic" and everything in between. Simply put, they are "More". More energy, more curiosity, more questions. The truth of the matter is that more times than not, these children are exceptionally bright with a unique outlook and perception of the world they inhabit.

It is their unique temperament that often leads to discipline problems, resulting in a frustrated and overwhelmed parent. And what parent wouldn't be overwhelmed! It's a daunting task to formulate an effective parenting plan that will help your spirited child become comfortable in their own skin and environment.

Some things to consider:

1) PLAN AHEAD:

While it is impossible to predict the outcome of every situation your toddler faces, it's incredibly important to understand that unexpected events and situations are triggers that can cause your toddler to erupt into a fit of hyperactive, unmanageable behavior. These outbursts aren't because of a mean spirit or a "bad" child. It's simply a reaction to some intense stimulation that they weren't prepared for. So before trips to Grandma's, doctor appointments, shopping malls, be sure to sit your toddler down and explain everything that may encounter along the way.

2) BE CONSISTENT:

Consistency cannot be emphasized enough. A key factor to managing your toddler's spirit is letting her know what she can expect each and every time she exhibits negative behavior. The best way to do this is to develop your own disciplinary system, including your child in the formulating of your plan. That way there won't be any surprises when your child misbehaves. He'll know exactly what's coming.

3) PRAISE, PRAISE, PRAISE:

As important as it is to address your child's negative behavior, it's just as important to praise the good. Not only does it assure your child that you're paying attention to her, it also gives her an incentive to behave. After all, children will do just about anything to get our attention. So it's important that they receive enthusiastic support and praise for making the right decisions.

4) GIVE THEM WORDS:

One of the greatest gifts we can give our children as parents is the ability to know the words that describe our feelings. Think about it from your child's perspective. You become overwhelmed and frightened and the only thing you know

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